I was listening to a teaching called Far More Than Rubies by Leslie Johnson. It is great. In it she talks about a frustration with her then 11 year old son. She would give him a verbal to-do list and expect him to get it done. He would do one thing and then diddle around. Her daughter had no problem finishing the things required so she didn't understand why her son was. She was getting more and more frustrated; thinking he was in rebellion. One morning after such list was given she came into his room to find him crying on his bed. She didn't understand. In her prayer time God showed her the son's heart. It turns out he would do anything for his mother. He just was unable to process the information in the same way his sister and mother did. God showed her to give him a list and he would respond. Sure enough, he did.
There are many times I think DS is procrastinating or plain rebelling when I give him a task. I know he loves me and that he does desire to obey. I need to revise my plan. I need to do things in a way he understands.
Yesterday I made these lists for both of the kids. The top says each childs name and then Morning Chores. Then there is a simple picture; I know I can not draw. And the act requested. It is a basic morning routine. Both kids have the same list with the exception of the animal. DS feeds the dog, DD feeds the cat. The list needs to be completed before any TV or computer time.
Today was a beautiful, peaceful morning. They both clearly knew what was expected of them and they got it done without a word from me. The last one on the list is "Ask Mom" This means when the previous 4 things are done they come to me and ask "Mom, is there anything else I need to do?" This gives me the freedom to tailor a request. I am going to try and keep this to one task. Today was wash your face. Tomorrow it may be pick up____. I love it...it is totally working. Added bonus; it is keeping me accountable as well.